So while my sweetie and I were in Charleston last week, I reconnected with a dear college friend, K Cooper Ray. He’s the writer, creator and designer behind Social Primer, a company whose website is subtitled: Manners, Conversation, Style and Handling Your Liquor. (Never underestimate that last one!) He is also working on a book – The Bill of Rights for the American Man, an etiquette guide for men and THE book I will be giving to every senior boy I know. I was lucky to see an early draft version last week.
So driving home I started thinking about what I could do on L&L to promote Cooper’s book but at the same time not knowing exactly when it will be available. I also am asked questions about issues of etiquette from friends fairly often and so I was thinking about a series of lessons in manners when my sweetie suggested I start a Manners Monday. Things I Love Thursday has been pretty popular – at least in the number of hits – so I said, “Yes! I will do that!”
Manners are guidelines – of sorts – to help us navigate what can sometimes be the treacherous waters of social interaction. And, they are also tools to help us appropriately demonstrate gratitude and give due respect when we need to. One doesn’t need money to have manners, and likewise no amount of money can buy them. (I’ve been charmed by gentlemen who were practically penniless and have been equally offended by the crudeness of the wealthy.)
Also, rules of etiquette should never be used to abuse or reprove someone who truly does not know better. I believe that most people want to behave well, and so in cases of offense, lead by example and I bet you’ll be surprised by how quickly folks catch on.
I already have a list of ten or so topics, but if you have a particular question, I’ll be glad to address that subject more quickly. In the meantime, I hope to meet you again at Manners Monday.
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